Tanya vW Posted September 7, 2007 Report Share Posted September 7, 2007 Hallo almal,Ek lees nou al 'n hele ruk die forum, en het onlangs aangesluit. Ek beny almal van julle wat kan se dat julle familie julle ondersteun. My en my man se ouers "verstaan", maar hulle wil net nie "aanvaar" nie, dit maak dinge vir ons as gesin baie moeilik. My man het 'n werksaanbod aanvaar in die Gladstone-omgewing en ons is besig met die 457-visa aansoek. Hoewel ons geen illusies het dat dit maanskyn en rose daar in down under gaan wees nie, is ons nogtans baie opgewonde oor ons besluit. Selfs my twee kinders is heel in hulle skik. Het enige iemand ook hierdie probleem? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest wilna Posted September 7, 2007 Report Share Posted September 7, 2007 (edited) Hi VickyEerstens, welkom op die forum. Ons vriende is Feb Gladstone toe en is baie gelukkig.Die ouers, daar is baie mense op die forum met dieselfde probleem. My eie ouers wou glad nie daaroor praat nie maar met tyd begin hulle besef hulle kan niks doen of se wat ons hier gaan hou nie. Nou aanvaar hulle dit, al maak dit hulle nog baie hartseer.Het julle al julle visa aansoek weg gestuur? Ek het vandag al die vorms laat print, gaan hulle die naweek invul, ek is seker die pak is 4 cm dik. Groete Wilna Edited September 7, 2007 by wilna Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tanya vW Posted September 7, 2007 Author Report Share Posted September 7, 2007 WilnaBaie dankie, ja ons vorms en goed is ingevul. Ons wag nog net vir my paspoort wat al lankal hier moes gewees het... is darem glo al gepos Sterkte met die vorms! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Robert & Telanie Posted September 7, 2007 Report Share Posted September 7, 2007 Hallo VickyBaie welkom by die forum. Ja die ouers, mens kan nie altyd te veel se daaroor nie, my ouers was maar ook in die begin baie stil, wou nie daaroor praat nie, maar met tyd het hulle gewoord geraak aan die idee, ons bly darem so 2000km van my ma-hulle af, so die afstand help darem. Maar ek moet se my ma is amper meer opgewonde as ons.Gee dit tyd hulle wil net nie he dat julle moet seerkry nie.Baie geluk met die werksaanbod, en sterkte vorentoe. Telanie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
carla28 Posted September 7, 2007 Report Share Posted September 7, 2007 Hi da en baie welkom op die forum. Ek het ook so 'n tydjie terug aangesluit en die response was ongelooflik. Hier is jy verseker om antwoorde en ook baie ondersteuning te kry. My man is familievas maar nie naastenby so erg soos ek nie. Ons bly nie in dieselfde stad as my skoon ouers nie dus sien ons hulle minstens een keer 'n jaar. Ek is BAIE familievas en sien my ma ten minste 5 keer 'n week en is baie close. Ek werk ook net om die draai van waar my ouers bly dus sien ek hulle baie meer. My ma is baie sensitief en huil baie maklik. Selfs al vertel iemand haar net 'n storie wat haar bly maak so jy kan verstaan hoe moeilik dit vir my moet wees om oor so iets met haar te praat. Sy begin sommer 'n traan pik. Sy was aan die begin in die ontkennings stadium en het die onderwerp heeltemal weggepraat maar het nou vrede gemaak daarmee en se dat sy daarmee sal deal as die tyd daar is. Ek wil haar tog betrek by ons planne en haar van alle verwikkelinge vertel maar dit is soms baie moeilik vir my omdat ek haar nie wil seermaak nie. Ek dink partykeer dat my ouers nog my enigste rede is dat ek hier wil bly maar besef ook dat ek aan my en my man en ons toekoms saam moet dink. Ek voel baie keer baie selfsugtig.My man se broer is alreeds in amerika gevestig vir 10 jaar met 'n gesin en dit maak dit baie erg vir my skoon ouers om te aanvaar dat hulle nog 'n kind kan verloor. Hulle kom dus die hele desember vir ons kuier en ek glo dat ons dan 'n piece van hulle mind gaan kry oor ons besluit. Hulle het nog nooit vir so lank kom kuier nie, en ek maak my reg vir baie verwyte en vrae.So sterkte, ek voel nes jy!!!GroeteCarla Hallo almal,Ek lees nou al 'n hele ruk die forum, en het onlangs aangesluit. Ek beny almal van julle wat kan se dat julle familie julle ondersteun. My en my man se ouers "verstaan", maar hulle wil net nie "aanvaar" nie, dit maak dinge vir ons as gesin baie moeilik. My man het 'n werksaanbod aanvaar in die Gladstone-omgewing en ons is besig met die 457-visa aansoek. Hoewel ons geen illusies het dat dit maanskyn en rose daar in down under gaan wees nie, is ons nogtans baie opgewonde oor ons besluit. Selfs my twee kinders is heel in hulle skik. Het enige iemand ook hierdie probleem? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RoMar Posted September 7, 2007 Report Share Posted September 7, 2007 Hi VickyWelcome to the forum. Sorry to write this to you in English but my Afrikaans is not too good (I understand it but don't write it too well). I'm really sorry to hear about your dilemma with your parents not accepting the fact that you and your hubby have decided to relocate your family to the other side of the world, but given time, I'm sure they are going to realise that it's the best thing you can do for your children (and yourselves, mind you). It is not easy making the decision to immigrate and there are going to be plenty more tears - but hang in there, it will all work out in the end. As I said to someone the other day (sorry, I can't remember who - my memory is failing me terribly lately), the other forumites will give you lots of good advice and support. They've either already been through it or are currently going through it - that's the nice thing about this forum - they're all people who understand.God Bless and good luck.Marcia Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Retha_hhr Posted September 7, 2007 Report Share Posted September 7, 2007 We didn't have the problem, I guess it didn't register with my mother. But the day we got our permanent recidence and I called my mother, she started to cry and asked if I will forget her. I usually phoned her once a week and made a point to still phone her once a week from Canada. This made the transition for her as well as for me easier. The first world countries all have lots of different plans that provide cheap overseas calls which made it very easy to keep contact. I have never used skype, but it is also a possibility. Just assure your families that you will stay in contact.Regards,Retha Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bokiwi Posted September 8, 2007 Report Share Posted September 8, 2007 Vicky - excuse me too if I write in english - I just do it faster than in Afrikaans. I am sorry to hear about your parents not accepting. You must understand that for a parent who is left behind, it is a grief situation because they view it as a 'death'. They do not know when they will see you again. Maybe they will die before they do etc etc. They are grieving and will take some time to come around to being delighted for you. Rememberand remind them that you are but a phone call away. Telephone cards are a cheap way of staying in constant contact and many providers here have special plans for overseas calls. So apart from Skype which is a wonderful tool for staying in touch, there is the promise of a trip. And if it is possible for you to help fund the trip for them if they cant do two flights themselves, then it is a good idea to let them come to Oz and see for themselves how you live, get on, what life is like.We live in Gladstone and it is not a bad place to be at all. Try the local newspaper www.gladstoneobserver.com.au and check out jobs (Saturday is the best day) houses to rent and for sale etc. www.realestate.com also gives you insight into rentals and house for sale. Keep in touch and let us know if we can help you in any other way. We live in Kin Kora and have a secondhand business in town having come to Oz via New Zealand.Pat Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Allie en Urs Posted September 8, 2007 Report Share Posted September 8, 2007 Ai Vicky jammer om dit te hoor van jou ouers.Dis nie lekker nie en wil tog vrede he van hul kant af oor alles.Ek sou maar net bid dat die Here met hul harte werk en die hele prentjie verander oor jul besluit en groot stap vorentoe.Vertrou net op die een daar bo.Hy sal die werk doen.Sterkte met al'sUrsula. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tanya vW Posted September 8, 2007 Author Report Share Posted September 8, 2007 Baie dankie julle ouens vir al die ondersteuning, dit gee my moed! I will "hang in there"! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tanya vW Posted September 8, 2007 Author Report Share Posted September 8, 2007 Vicky - excuse me too if I write in english - I just do it faster than in Afrikaans. I am sorry to hear about your parents not accepting. You must understand that for a parent who is left behind, it is a grief situation because they view it as a 'death'. They do not know when they will see you again. Maybe they will die before they do etc etc. They are grieving and will take some time to come around to being delighted for you. Rememberand remind them that you are but a phone call away. Telephone cards are a cheap way of staying in constant contact and many providers here have special plans for overseas calls. So apart from Skype which is a wonderful tool for staying in touch, there is the promise of a trip. And if it is possible for you to help fund the trip for them if they cant do two flights themselves, then it is a good idea to let them come to Oz and see for themselves how you live, get on, what life is like.We live in Gladstone and it is not a bad place to be at all. Try the local newspaper www.gladstoneobserver.com.au and check out jobs (Saturday is the best day) houses to rent and for sale etc. www.realestate.com also gives you insight into rentals and house for sale. Keep in touch and let us know if we can help you in any other way. We live in Kin Kora and have a secondhand business in town having come to Oz via New Zealand.PatThank you Bokiwi for the advice, I think you hit it on the nail with what the parents must go through. Sometimes we feel guilty about is, but we still know our move is the correct decision. I will definitely keep in touch and thank you very much for offering help - it makes it easier to know that there is already someone that can help! What kind of business do you have?Ai Vicky jammer om dit te hoor van jou ouers.Dis nie lekker nie en wil tog vrede he van hul kant af oor alles.Ek sou maar net bid dat die Here met hul harte werk en die hele prentjie verander oor jul besluit en groot stap vorentoe.Vertrou net op die een daar bo.Hy sal die werk doen.Sterkte met al'sUrsula.Baie dankie, jou gebede word waardeer. Mens vergeet maklik om jou vertroue op Hom te plaas. Dankie vir die herinnering! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
martinwolmarans Posted September 20, 2007 Report Share Posted September 20, 2007 hallo VickyOns is bly nog iemand het dit gemaak. Wees reg vir n bietjie culture shock. Gladstone is n industriele gebied en meeste mense bly so bietjie uit dit uit. Julle gaan op privaat medies wees wat julle seker gewoond is om te betaal. Moenie bang wees om te kyk na privaat skole vir julle kinders nie. Jy sal verbaas wees hoe bekostigbaar dit is teenoor SA. Na ek en my vrou altwee gewerk het na net ek hier en sy studeer en kan ek nog steeds bekostig om my kinders in privaat skool te sit, wat ek basies vergelyk met die model C skole wat ons almal na toe gegaan het. Party mense sal seker stry maar ek dink meeste Suid Afrikaners doen dit. Dit voel net normaal.Australia is die regte besluit ,maar onthou net een ding, dat om in regional QLD te bly is nie Melbourne,Brisbane of Sydney. As julle van die outdoors hou dan is QLD of North QLD vir julle. Ons wil net stad toe siende ons van Durban af is.O ja baied mense hier wat se visas deur die maatskappy gereel word word vertel dat hulle n jaar of twee moet wag voordat hulle kan apply vir Permanent visas. Ons het geapply 3 maande later en maand later was ons Permanent met al die voordele. Geluk of goeie Immigrasie lawyer. Anyway voel vry om vra te vra oor QLD en pasop vir diefstal by JHB lughawe. Groete. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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