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We are finally in Australia. What now? 

It can be very difficult finding one's way and we do not want to disrupt our children's lives too much with endless questions.

Any questions or discussions for older immigrants.

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Tntaglia

I found the facebook groups for my area to be really helpful. I'm not sure where you live but there are FB groups for South Africans living in Sydney, South Africans living in the Hills district, and just generally the Aussiekaners etc. FB groups. Mostly comprising people who have gone through this. I am also active on just general parenting groups on FB in my area and have received loads of great advice and tips from there.

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14 hours ago, Tntaglia said:

I found the facebook groups for my area to be really helpful. I'm not sure where you live but there are FB groups for South Africans living in Sydney, South Africans living in the Hills district, and just generally the Aussiekaners etc. FB groups. Mostly comprising people who have gone through this. I am also active on just general parenting groups on FB in my area and have received loads of great advice and tips from there.

@Tntaglia I have found the same. Most groups are very friendly and keen to assist with anything. I have so far, found all casual jobs that I have done and am still doing through facebooks groups. It is really great.

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Maz

Thanks for doing this Elna although I am away from getting my visa grant being on the 173 my processing will be a lot quicker so will be popping in here and getting some tips for "D" day.  I have taken away so much from the other sites I feel so much more comfortable that I know what I am meant to be doing. I am flying this whole process solo! 

Once I am there even though I will be living with my family it will be nice to keep in touch and also find out what us "oldies" need to do i.e applying for driving licenses, getting medicare cards, applying for senior cards (that is still another year or two).

Be good to also get some tips for interviews at our age - our questions will be completely different like we probably will not be asked "where do you see yourself in 10 years time!" haha.

Hope you well settled.

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On 9/22/2018 at 12:17 AM, Maz said:

Thanks for doing this Elna although I am away from getting my visa grant being on the 173 my processing will be a lot quicker so will be popping in here and getting some tips for "D" day.  I have taken away so much from the other sites I feel so much more comfortable that I know what I am meant to be doing. I am flying this whole process solo! 

Once I am there even though I will be living with my family it will be nice to keep in touch and also find out what us "oldies" need to do i.e applying for driving licenses, getting medicare cards, applying for senior cards (that is still another year or two).

Be good to also get some tips for interviews at our age - our questions will be completely different like we probably will not be asked "where do you see yourself in 10 years time!" haha.

Hope you well settled.

Hahahaha. I think I know the answer to the question of where I see myself in 10 years time already. 😆

I have been keeping busy doing sewing and cleaning houses for other people. Also worked in a café and absolutely loved it. 

It is quite hectic here in Brisbane. Always things to do and see for free.

I would really love to do more networking but it is hard to balance work and social life.

Once one has all the licenses and medicare cards and bank accounts sorted as well as tax numbers etc., life throws some more to do's in one's inbox. Like SA tax returns and Aus tax returns. Well, we finally did both and are now looking for work again. 

Changing one's cover letter and resume for each particular job takes a lot of time but has to be done.

Apart from all that, life in Brisbane is good. The weather is good and most people are good and friendly.

I am hoping to see some of our room mates join this thread once the get to Aus and also hoping to meet some. 

Have a great afternoon folks!

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Elna57

@Maz Now this came as a complete shock to me! I have been getting so much love and support by joining a Group called ..........wait for it..........!! Backpackers!!!! 😄 They do not care how old one is, do not give a hoot about social status or anything. They just want to help and are such nice young people. Their enthusiasm is overwhelming at times but also such an inspiration.

 

 

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Elna57

@Bonny  Welcome. Are you here already or still waiting for your visa?

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On 11/21/2018 at 5:58 PM, Elna57 said:

@Bonny  Welcome. Are you here already or still waiting for your visa?

Hi Elna been here 12 years 😸

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Elna57

Hi Folks

Just checking in to see how you all are. 

@Bonny That is a long time! 

Soon, in February, we will have been here for a year. 

How time flies!

 

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@Maz Hang in there buddy! It is a long and lonely process but being near one's children is so worth the wait.

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Any questions or concerns? 

I will try to get some of our recent visa granted parents to post here as well. 

 

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What a rollercoaster ride this has been! I have done courses and jobs that I would never have done or even consider doing back in South Africa.

I have cried and laughed with fellow South Africans but only laughed with Aussies. They do not cry.... EVER!!

They get up and get going.  They help where they can and will go the extra mile. 

My advice to any parents moving over... do NOT isolate yourselves. Do not try to stick with only ex SAs. Mix, mingle, make connections even when they seem to avoid eye contact, Aussies are a really nice kind of people once you get to know them.  

It is not easy for us older folks to find jobs over here, but it is possible. We just have to do what we have to do.

I have a couple of cleaning jobs at the moment and I love it.

I am about to do an all free course in Hospitality offered by Queensland government where we reside and am all excited about it. New knowledge to learn about my new home country. After all, I am an Aussie now.  Having an interview on Monday for a job that pays $20 per hour but ever so grateful for just making it to that stage.

At my age, it is hard to get excited about anything, but I am soooo ready and willing to do this!!  To get off my backside and just get on with it, whatever IT is. 

Will keep you updated folks. (If I have time. 😅)

 

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Elza

@Elna57  Wow!! Your sheet has brought back some memories looking at it and seeing all the names.  All those nights I would work the dates in various ways in hope that somehow with me doing that it would bring the time closer, that call, the final email!!! I remember we also decided to add our information to our signature section, so all the missing info for me on your list actually comes up at the bottom of my notes.

 

I'm still looking for work, but boy am I happy here!! It's the most beautiful place this, the beaches, people are incredible..... I cannot get over the color of the water, amazing!!! 

 

It's interesting how we process all these changes... I was just so eager for them to call for the interview, then it was to pay the money, the shipping container, my little baby dogs,  then the visa, the air ticket, saying the goodbyes.  I used to sit until all hours of the morning thinking, worrying, planning.......... Then once I arrived here then I started, medical aid, driving license, bank accounts, car, insurance!!!  I waited for my container to arrive, once that happened I started wishing for a job to come up.  The job kind of links to work = money = own place to stay = social life = first holiday!!!!  I enrolled in different training courses to help me pass the time.......

 

I have all these things and many other not mentioned on a long list which started in Feb 2015 and it's now 2019 and I am still ticking off slowly as the month's pass.  I have realized that each step seems to have some sort of emotion/feeling, that the other didn't have. It's crazy, like menopause - I'm up and down like a yo-yo!!! My son understands and often when we talk he will reflect on the time years ago when they did the same journey!! And add his story!!!

 

It's a long and emotional road, but so incredibly worth it, I wouldn't change it for anything!!!

 

Everyone out there still waiting, little by little the time grew as the time passed - when I started the wait was 18 months, I finally got my visa after 3 years and five months!!!! You will go through ups and downs, life does change, things do happen but just remember that in the end when you finally arrive here it's the best feeling ever!!!!!

 

Good luck to all of you!!!!!!

 

😌🤑👹😲😁........ and many many more!!!!!!!

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Elna57

@Elza Thank you so much for your post. Much appreciated.

 

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Maz

Finally got "the email" to provide docs....please keep me a space in here not long and I will be in here permanently and not just peeking through the window :)

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