Guest May Posted July 12, 2014 Report Share Posted July 12, 2014 I was on probation in a managerial position(see the irony in that), I refused to make a complaint about the bullying and intimidation however as often it is the tables turn when you try and do the right thing and not make a fuss following all the good advice on the forum about tall poppy seed syndrome. She has come after me so now I am the one who they are disciplining with extended probation (6 month plus 6 months) and a performance plan written by the bully + HR and her as the evaluator.The best advice at my age I would give another person...is walk away however I am the main breadwinner and we know the job market is tight. I have the T-shirt for having stood my ground and martyrdom is overrated when there is impact on your family.3 things you need to know when offering me advice on how to proceed:1. She is not my manager but a senior in another area2. I have done nothing wrong3. My manager has no backbone in this situationAlso I do not want to do anything to compromise my PR to citizenship in 2 years time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BriD Posted July 12, 2014 Report Share Posted July 12, 2014 I don't have any advice....but I wanted to send a huge hug! What an awful situation. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AndreaL Posted July 12, 2014 Report Share Posted July 12, 2014 May.....................your p.r. to citizenship is safe, so don't worry about that....................as long as you have done the 4 years, fill the form in and pay........it's yours.Have you thought about getting some advice from Fairwork Australia? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RYLC Posted July 13, 2014 Report Share Posted July 13, 2014 If your manager won't help and HR is taking sides, then I would be seeing an IR lawyer for advice (just advice not action at this stage). Fair Work isn't really much help for ongoing issues. They seem to have more effect with unfair dismissal after the fact.I know a great IR lawyer in Adelaide which would mean Adelaide prices rather than Sydney prices. A couple of Sydney firms outsource their work to her because she is good but cheaper than Sydney so they still make a profit. PM me if you want her name. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bronwyn&Co Posted July 13, 2014 Report Share Posted July 13, 2014 I'm sorry to hear it May. Let's hope it blows over Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest May Posted July 13, 2014 Report Share Posted July 13, 2014 Thank you for your support everyone. It wont blow over unfortunately Bronwyn its at the tail end now. She is a bully with a history and she realises I am a threat as we report independently however she is more senior in her responsibilities so overseas parent company value her more of they had to choose. HR is going through the motions. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SurferMan Posted July 14, 2014 Report Share Posted July 14, 2014 If you are going to go down May, and that was me...Stuff, I would go down swinging. I have walked away from too many fights and been reamed by unscrupulous people. I would stand my ground on cold fact. No emotion, just cold fact. Man I hate it when people get picked on. Keep the faith May! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kath Posted July 14, 2014 Report Share Posted July 14, 2014 Hang in there May. You have come so far - don't let this beat you down. Sending you a hug. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SurferMan Posted July 16, 2014 Report Share Posted July 16, 2014 How are things going May? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
g26130 Posted July 16, 2014 Report Share Posted July 16, 2014 Join the union Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest May Posted July 17, 2014 Report Share Posted July 17, 2014 Hi Everyone,Thank you for your support, it would seem very lonely if I did not have the forum and the the FB groups to support me. I got some advice from Mark de Wet in HR. Part of me wants to give my worry up to the Lord and part of me knows that Monday I have to sit there and painstakingly record everything and put everything into writing.What choice do I have, to walk away would mean sitting idle at home as I have spoken to my recruitment agent and jobs are tight. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SurferMan Posted July 21, 2014 Report Share Posted July 21, 2014 Keep fighting May, keep swinging. Make them pay for every blow. You are in the faith with God. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest May Posted August 15, 2014 Report Share Posted August 15, 2014 “I recently had the need to use the services of Mark de Wet from M2 HR Consulting on a case of bullying, intimidation and performance management. I found him to be very professional, discreet and knowledgeable in a situation that was both emotionally troubling and stressful for me. He coached me on my responses and approach to the sensitive issues I was faced with and what I take away from the whole experience is a better understanding and a sense of objectivity if ever I should be have a similar encounter. I really would not have been able to move on so fast without his patience and understanding, his support and responses were always present.” MHS Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bronwyn&Co Posted August 15, 2014 Report Share Posted August 15, 2014 May have you found something else already? It sounds like it...hope so! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest May Posted August 15, 2014 Report Share Posted August 15, 2014 Hi Bronwyn. No soldiering on because I have a goal. Don't bear a grudge but typical Scorpio wont forget. Want to do CA/CPA studies at 46!A few more weeks/ months with the Lord's help. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kanniewagnie Posted August 20, 2014 Report Share Posted August 20, 2014 May, you are a strong woman with a Powerful Lord. You are in our prayers. Keep us updated? 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SurferMan Posted August 20, 2014 Report Share Posted August 20, 2014 Jesus never left you nor stopped being your rock May. Thoughts and prayers are with you!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AshB Posted November 29, 2014 Report Share Posted November 29, 2014 Hi May,we have chatted on a few occasions .....TALL POPPY Syndrome , new migrants suffer at the wrath of the Aussies because we need their job to breath so they take advantage of the situation. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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